The Emotions of Infertility

23 May 2014

Infertility is a major life crisis for 1 in 6 couples. For these women and men fighting the disease of infertility, the infertility experience involves many hidden losses for the individuals, their loved ones and society as a whole, including:

  • Loss of the pregnancy and the birth experience; 
  • Loss of a genetic legacy and loss of future contributing citizens to the next generation; 
  • Loss of the parenting experience; 
  • Loss of a grandparent relationship; 
  • Low feelings of self-worth; 
  • Loss of stability in family and personal relationships; 
  • Loss of work productivity; 
  • and Loss of a sense of spirituality and sense of hope for the future. 


Because infertility often involves major personal life issues and decisions, it is often experienced as a private matter and is not ordinarily discussed in public forums. The personal nature of the infertility experience contributes to the failure of the public, politicians, healthcare professionals and the media to recognize infertility as a disease. This causes a lack of sound knowledge and available resources about infertility.

Infertility has a strong impact on self-esteem. Suddenly your life, which may have been well-planned and successful, seems out-of-control. Not only is your physical body not responding as expected but it feels as if your entire life is on hold. Facing the disappointment of not becoming pregnant month after month can lead to depression for both you and your spouse.

It is important that you don’t go through this alone. If you are concerned speak with the team at Coastal IVF Sunshine Coast who help people daily in a similar situation.